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Karena Yusuf suaminya, seorang yang tulus hati dan tidak mau mencemarkan nama isterinya di depan umum, ia bermaksud menceraikannya dengan diam-diam [Matius 1:19]

Pernikahan Anda dengan tunangan Anda sudah dekat. Anda berdua saling mencintai dan menjaga diri sampai pernikahan terjalin secara sah. Namun, tiba-tiba tunangan Anda mengaku hamil....dan bukan karena Anda. Itulah tamparan yang dialami Yusuf. Berdasar apa yang diketahuinya, ia berhak mempersoalkan ketidaksetiaan itu sampai masyarakat mengetahuinya. Namun. ia memilih tidak mempermalukan Maria. Ia mengambil jalan sulit: hendak menceraikannya diam-diam agar gadis itu tak menanggung aib. Sikap itu juga memperlihatkan bahwa ia rela dianggap turut bersalah dalam perkara itu.

Kita tak tahu persis apa yang bergejolak di hati Yusuf. Kita maklum jika darahnya mendidih mendengar pengakuan Maria. Namun, setelah amarahnya surut, mungkin ia tercenung, sadar bahwa tak seorang pun bebas dari kesalahan. Mungkin ia terkenang riwayat leluhurnya yang tak luput dari berbagai peristiwa memalukan Matius 1:1-17. Atau, mungkin terlintas dalam hatinya, perkataan yang kelak diucapkan Anak dalam kandungan itu: "Siapa saja di antara kamu tidak berdosa, hendaklah ia yang pertama melemparkan batu kepada perempuan itu" Yohanes 8:7.

Matius mencatat Yusuf sebagai orang yang tulus hati. Dalam terjemahan lain: orang mursyid; orang benar; orang saleh. Ia benar, justru karena tidak membenarkan diri dan mempertahankan haknya. Ia benar, dan karenanya menunjukkan belas kasihan. Alih-alih mempermalukan, ia mengejar pemulihan. Dalam kasus Maria, "pelanggaran" yang terjadi bukanlah kesalahannya. Namun, andaikata kita diperhadapkan pada orang lain yang melakukan pelanggaran, siapakah di antara kita yang bersedia mengikuti jejak Yusuf?

ORANG BENAR BAHKAN BERSEDIA "MENYERAP" KESALAHAN UNTUK MEMULIHKAN SI PELAKU PELANGGARAN.

[Not embarrass] 

Because Joseph her husband, being a just man and unwilling to disgrace her publicly, he intended to divorce her quietly [Matthew 1:19] 

Your wedding with your fiancé is imminent. You both love each other and keep themselves up to marriage legally established. However, your fiance suddenly claiming to be pregnant .... and not because of you. That slap experienced by Joseph. Based on what he knows, he is entitled to question the infidelity to the public know about it. However. he chose not to embarrass Mary. He took the hard way: he wanted to divorce her quietly so that she would not disgrace. That attitude also showed that he was willing to participate deemed guilty in the case.  

We do not know exactly what troubled the hearts of Joseph. We understand if his blood boil to hear confessions Maria.  
However, after his anger subsided, he probably stunned, realizing that nobody is free from errors. Perhaps he remembered the history of his ancestors who did not escape the embarrassing events of Matthew 1: 1-17. Or, perhaps it occurred to him, words that would be spoken Children in the womb: "Who among you without sin, let him throw the first stone to the woman," John 8: 7. 

Matthew records Joseph as the upright in heart. In another translation: the mursyid; righteous; the pious. He was right, precisely because it does not justify itself and to defend their rights. He was right, and therefore show no mercy. Instead of embarrassing, he pursues the recovery. In the case of Maria, "breach" This was not a mistake. However, suppose we are faced with another person who commits an offense, who among us who are willing to follow in the footsteps of Joseph? 

THE TRUE EVEN WILLING "ABSORBING" ERROR TO RESTORE THE ACTORS VIOLATION.